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Everything about being a leader is like being a parent. It is about committing to the well-being of those in our care and having a willingness to make sacrifices to see their interests advanced so that they may carry our banner long after we are gone.

Simon Sinek

What kind of legacy are you building for your family?

It often brings me great joy to hear how my kids behave when I’m not around. One day, when my son was about 11 years old, I was picking him up from a friend’s house. His friend’s dad pulled me aside with a sombre look on his face and asked, “How does he know to put his dirty dishes in the sink?”

For a split second, my mind raced. I was expecting a conversation about poor behaviour and was pleasantly surprised when it turned out to be quite the opposite.

My response, in hindsight, probably wasn’t all that helpful. I simply smiled and said, “We ask the kids every single night to do it.”

What I didn’t say was that we were also tired of asking every single night.

Like many parents, we’d wondered if the constant reminders were making any difference at all. Yet, when we weren’t there to prompt him, he remembered. He chose to do the right thing because it had quietly become part of who he was.

It’s a simple illustration of the legacy we are choosing to build.

Legacy is rarely created through grand gestures. More often, it is formed through ordinary moments repeated consistently over time. Every conversation, every boundary, every family meal, every reminder to be kind, honest, respectful, and responsible is laying another brick in the foundation of your children’s future.

The truth is, our children may not remember every instruction we gave them, but they will remember the culture we created. They will carry our values into classrooms, workplaces, friendships, marriages, and one day, perhaps into their own families.

So don’t grow weary in the repetition. The habits you’re reinforcing today are becoming the character your children will carry tomorrow. One day, someone else may quietly notice the fruit of your faithfulness, and you’ll realise that the small things were never small after all.

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Leadeship trait: running interference

This might not be the first leadership trait that comes to mind, but it is often one of the first to be noticed. There are seasons when leaders need to play offence driving vision, making decisions, and creating momentum. At other times, they need to play defence protecting their people, absorbing pressure, navigating conflict, and creating the space their team needs to do their best work.

The same is true in our homes.

As parents, there are moments when we need to be unwavering advocates for our children, whether that’s partnering with their school, speaking up on their behalf, or helping them navigate difficult situations. Other times, our role is quieter. We cheer them on from the sidelines, create healthy boundaries, or simply stand between them and the pressures of the world, giving them the freedom to grow, flourish, and enjoy being children for a little longer.

None of this is easy. Parenting constantly asks us to balance protection with preparation, shelter with resilience, and guidance with growing independence.

Lately, I’ve been thinking about the amount of news my teenagers consume. I want them to understand the world and become thoughtful, informed adults. At the same time, I want to preserve a little more of their childhood before the weight of the world’s problems becomes theirs to carry. It’s a delicate balance. Ironically, some of the richest and most meaningful conversations we’ve had as a family have come from the stories they’ve read. The tension is real, and there isn’t always a perfect answer.

Perhaps that’s what running interference looks like. It’s not about shielding our children from every challenge or solving every problem for them. It’s about prayerfully and intentionally discerning when to step in, when to step back, and when to create the space they need to grow safely.

Take a moment today to consider this question: How can you create the conditions for your family to flourish? Where might you need to remove a barrier, absorb a little pressure, or protect your children’s hearts and minds for this season?

There will be times when they won’t understand why you stepped in. But one day, they may look back and realise you weren’t limiting their world you were preparing them for it.

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The hotshot perspective

“If a hotshot took over your job today, what’s the first thing they would fix that you’ve been tolerating?”

Kat Cole

This powerful reflection often attributed to business leader Kat Cole and her “Hotshot Rule” is a question worth pausing on. It’s a big question but it can also be a very gentle invitation.

In the busyness of family life, it’s easy to carry on with things that “just work… well enough.” The rushed mornings. The clutter that never quite gets cleared. The conversations we mean to have but put off for another day. We tolerate small stresses because life is full and we’re doing our best.

But imagine, just for a moment, stepping back and looking at your family with fresh eyes. With compassion and clarity, not the lens of busy and chaos. What’s one small thing that could make your home feel calmer, kinder, or more connected?

Maybe it’s creating a simple routine that makes mornings less stressful.
Maybe it’s setting aside intentional time together each week.
Maybe it’s letting go of something that’s been weighing on your family whether it’s clutter, pressure, or unrealistic expectations.

The point isn’t to do everything. It’s to notice one thing.

What makes this rule so powerful is that it reminds us: change doesn’t always require a major overhaul. Often, it starts with an honest reflection and one small step forward.

Because you don’t need a “hotshot” to come in and fix things. You already have the insight and the heart to begin. ❤️

What is your one change for today?

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Leadership trait : Patience

Patience is a conquering virtue.

Geoffrey Chaucer

The thing about patience is, you can only learn to be patient by being patient. Patience is a skill and an art all in one. Growing up, us kids knew when my Dad was being patient with us, he would clear his throat. As though he was just giving us a little time to start behaving, as we knew better, or waiting for us to say what we needed to say or a little time for him to choose his words wisely. His leadership in this area, has impacted the way I do things. Granted I am not as patient as him, but I try to allow time to pass before making decisions, before correcting my kids, before doing most things. Patience allows time – time for strategic thinking, time for clear evaluation, time for things to settle on their own, time for things to work out. Demonstrating patience in the workplace and home, shows strength. The key is to know when patience or action is required.

Patience is the companion of wisdom.

Anonymous
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The world is changed by your example, not by your opinion.

– Paulo Coelho, Brazilian writer

Actions speak louder than words. In families and leadership, setting a good example builds trust, teaches values, and inspires change. Leading by example creates lasting impact. Children and family members learn more from what we do than what we say. When we show patience, they learn calm. When we act with integrity, they learn honesty. Leadership in families isn’t about control, it’s about consistency, presence, and modelling the values we hope to see.

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Leadership trait: Humility

Every person that you meet knows something you don’t: learn from them.

H. Jackson Brown Jr.

Humility is attractive. Humility is a magnet for integrity, collaboration, appreciation, and acknowledgement.  Humility attracts staff, who will want to work with you, look forward to being around you and motivated by you. They know you will acknowledge their efforts, appreciate their hard work, and offer a human side to leadership.

Likewise, when we are humble in our homes, humble toward our children, we show them reality, the realness of life. Yes, difficulties arise, and challenges are met – not perfectly but to the best of our abilities. Granted it may take humiliation to encourage our humility but if our families witness it firsthand, how much more are they going to value us as parents. How much more are they going to value humility and being humble themselves. In turn they will begin to value integrity, want to receive our appreciation, be acknowledged, and finally behave like this towards others.

Humility is not thinking less of yourself; it’s thinking of yourself less.

C. S. Lewis

Never curse a fall. The ground is where humility lives. 

Yasmin Mogahed
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In matters of style, swim with the current; in matters of principle, stand like a rock.” -Thomas Jefferson

This quote is one example of a guiding truth for those leading families. Effective family leadership means adapting to changing seasons: children grow, dynamics shift, and communication styles evolve. Flexibility fosters connection and understanding.

Yet, core principles like respect, honesty, and love must remain unshaken. These values anchor the family through uncertainty and change. Leaders in families must model both adaptability and conviction, showing that while we adjust how we relate, we never compromise who we are. This balance builds trust, resilience, and a legacy of integrity across generations.

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Weed Free Garden

I love to garden. I love being outside, I love being in the sun, I love dirt and I love plants. Everything about it makes me happy. In another life, I wouldn’t be a cat lady, I would be a crazy plant lady – with a home full of plants. For now I am happy with my deck covered in pots and my garden overflowing with natives.

One thing I have learnt from cultivating the same garden for about ten years, is if you don’t pull out the weeds from the roots they come back – often multiplying. When we first moved into the house we live in now, the yard was barren, the garden beds that spread around the perimeter of the yard, contained unkept palms, green looking plants that were more than likely weeds, a lot of clay like dirt and weeds. As time went on, we slowly improved the soil, eventually chopped down the bat attracting palms, planted and planted and planted. While the plants were little the weeds tried to strangle them, outgrow them and take the new nutrients we had added to the soil.

Now our garden brings delight to us and our kids. The natives attract birds and bees. They flower and provide shade for the yard. We love being outside and enjoying the garden that has grown out of sheer hard work and tending to it, season after season.

Applying this same type of effort and tending to, to our own lives, is at times harder and more complex. I find it way easier to pull weeds out of my garden, then out of my heart. In our home, we try to be self-aware and look for ways to be better – not just for those around us, but for ourselves. It does start, by looking for the weeds, and pulling them out by the root. Not always easy, not always fun – but worth it.

In the back corner of our garden, we have a spot that still needs plants in it, the weeds grow freely and I actually refuse to pull them out. My husband often says, ‘ when you have time, pull out those weeds’… I refuse and say, ‘when I have something to replace them with I will, or they’ll grow back.’ He concedes it’s a fair point. In our own lives, make sure when you find a weed in your heart – something that holds you back, something that is unwanted – make sure you not only pull it out by the roots, but replace it with something worthy – something that brings joy and peace. Something that will multiply in a positive way.

Spend some time thinking about what is in your life that is a ‘weed’? Is it an addiction, a habit, something that is not productive or positive for your family?

What could you replace it with?

Think about some steps you could take to remove the ‘weeds’ from your heart? This isn’t always easy, but it’s worth it.

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Leadership trait: Resilience

Do not judge me by my success, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again.

Nelson Mandela

The road is getting tougher and tougher, yet you keep on walking. Life is getting to you, yet you keep going, finding strength you didn’t know you had. You get through it, stronger and more victorious that you expected.

Hello increased resilience. Face the battle with your weapons of determination and perseverance, standing fast knowing when you succeed and you will, you will be stronger and better for it.

The human capacity for burden is like bamboo- far more flexible than you’d ever believe at first glance.

Jodi Picoult, My Sister’s Keeper 
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A good leader inspires people to have confidence in the leader; a great leader inspires people to have confidence in themselves.”

Eleanor Roosevelt, former First Lady of the United States

This quote really speaks to the heart of us as parents. It’s really a simple truth: being a good leader in your home means you have the trust of your family, your kids, your loved ones. But being a great one? That’s when they start trusting themselves to make decisions, to put into practice what they’ve learnt, what they’ve experienced, what they’ve observed.

Our job as parents isn’t to have all the answers, it’s to help our kids, our family believe that they do. Lift them up, and they’ll surprise you every time.

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Undefeated = Victorious

We love it when our sporting team is undefeated. It’s such a strong word. One that sends a clear message. Momentum builds when a team keeps winning: the joy of the streak, the confidence that others are trying and still can’t break through. Undefeated carries both strength and quiet authority.

It got me thinking… are we living undefeated? Are we living in victory?

So often, we feel the need to defend ourselves, our thoughts, our opinions, our integrity, who we are at our core. Pause for a moment and ask: why?

Why do we, as humans, feel this need?

Dare I suggest ego?
Dare I say the desire to be heard?
Or perhaps the need to feel elevated, validated, or more knowledgeable?

It doesn’t take much to see this play out. Read the news. Scroll through online forums. Take discussions about something as simple as personal car use or travel choices, the list goes on. We see identity and worth tangled up in opinion. Yet our identity and perspective are not meant to be dictated by external factors.

Yes, the current global climate affects every one of us. But our response, our attitude, whether or not we live in victory, remains our choice.

To live undefeated means nothing is truly defeating us.

To live in victory doesn’t mean we never face battles. It doesn’t mean life will be perfect; it never will be. It doesn’t mean every dream will come to pass, some may not.

What it does mean is this:
Our reaction, our response, our disposition toward life can be the best it can be and that is a choice we get to make.

In a wild and noisy world, I want to encourage you to lift your eyes above it all and choose to live undefeated. Choose to live in victory. It’s not about what’s happening around us, it’s about remembering that we have a choice.

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Choosing Influence Over Overwhelm 

Recently, I was lucky enough to be in New York on a study tour, where I had the opportunity to interview some truly incredible people working in roles similar to mine.

One conversation in particular has stayed with me.

She spoke about the changes she’s witnessed in her community over time especially the visible and alarming rise in mental health concerns. Increasingly, frontline staff are encountering difficult and negative interactions linked directly to people experiencing crisis. While she remained hopeful and deeply committed to the role she and her team play in supporting community members in need, the emotional toll was unmistakable.

So, I asked her a question that many of us quietly hold: How do you lead a frontline team through incidents involving people in crisis, especially when you simply can’t fix the situation?

Her response was both honest and powerful.

She shared that when situations feel heartbreaking and gut‑wrenching, she asks her team one simple grounding question:

Is this a problem we can solve within our scope of work, something within our control or is this a broader societal issue?

She said, “I can’t give unhoused people a home. But my team and I can treat them with dignity, respect, and refer them appropriately. I can’t change the cost‑of‑living crisis. But I can continue to offer our free service with kindness, clear boundaries, and an understanding of the pressures impacting our community.”

I’ve mulled over this response many times since. At its heart, it’s about control and influence. What we can and can’t control, and where our influence truly lies.

Bringing this perspective into our homes can help us make sense of everything happening in the world around us. When something feels overwhelming, we can pause and ask: Is this something my family and I can control or influence? Or is this something we need to navigate together as part of a wider social, economic, or global challenge?

We absolutely have a say in how we teach our children to behave what we don’t control is how every other child behaves.

We absolutely have control over how we manage our household budget, even if we don’t like the external pressures of rising costs. I can’t change the cost of living, but I can change how I approach it, plan for it, and move through it.

And perhaps most importantly, we absolutely have control over our own actions, thoughts, and emotions. We can notice them before we tip into anger, frustration, or impatience. We can pause, reset, and choose differently. And when joy bubbles over, we can share it freely, because positivity, when offered generously, becomes wonderfully contagious.

What I can’t control is how others respond.
What I can do is show up with kindness, clarity, and compassion and trust that small, intentional choices still make a meaningful difference.

And sometimes, that’s more than enough.

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Shaping Leaders: Susanna Wesley

I am taking a step back in history to the late 1600’s and early 1700’s and examining the amazing leadership style of a woman named Susanna Wesley. What is she famous for you ask? Why choose her as a leader? She is the mother of two world movers and shakers – John and Charles Wesley. In fact, she was a mother to 19 children, tragically by the time she passed away only 8 were still alive. Being a mother is important, being a father is important – being a parent is the greatest leadership role you will ever have.

For those unfamiliar with the work of John and Charles Wesley – here is a super quick run down: John Wesley single handedly started the Methodist denomination – focused on charity works that has spread globally and is still in operation today. His brother Charles Wesley wrote some 6000 hymns in his lifetime some of which are still sung today – 300 years later. To say both men changed the world is an understatement but you get the idea.

Back to their mother – Susanna. She lived a life of hardship – her husband was frequently jailed for gambling debts, their house burnt down twice – she managed to rebuild it, she even stopped her husband from living in the family home for a period of time due to an unresolved dispute. She was tough, strong and courageous. When she was without her husband (read big deal back in the 1690’s) she continued to run a tight household as noted in a letter to her husband:

I am a woman, but I am also the mistress of a large family. And though the superior charge of the souls contained in it lies upon you, yet in your long absence I cannot but look upon every soul you leave under my charge as a talent committed to me under a trust. I am not a man nor a minister, yet as a mother and a mistress I felt I ought to do more than I had yet done. I resolved to begin with my own children; in which I observe the following method: I take such a proportion of time as I can spare every night to discourse with each child apart.

Susanna Wesley

I love it how through all the hardships she faced in her life – lack of money being the most prominent and impacting, she decided to do more than she had yet done, and began with her family. She invested and invested and invested into her children’s lives. Each child’s adult life makes for a great read. I could say so much more about her leadership – how she persisted during hard times, she was consistent with her household, she never wavered from her faith and her beliefs. She had resolve and resilience. It has been said of her that:

Although she never preached a sermon or published a book or founded a church, (she) is known as the Mother of Methodism. Why? Because two of her sons, John Wesley and Charles Wesley, as children consciously or unconsciously, applied the example and teachings and circumstances of their home life.

I love this quote about Susanna Wesley as it sums up her leadership – she set the example, lead with teaching rather than expecting and created a home environment full of learning and wonder. What more could we want for our own homes, than to have it conducive to raising world changers.

If we think about it – she sounds like one of the original Homes of Victory – it’s not about anything else other than the people in it doing life together- being courageous, intentional and generous.

Lastly, I will leave you with this thought – When you start to think ‘ I am only a Mum/ Dad” remember you are never ‘ only’ a Mum/ Dad – you are a person of great influence in your families lives. You and your influence and resolve will leave a lasting and incredible impact on your child/ren’s lives.

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I have not failed…


Failure is coming into its own after what seems like forever – it is no longer seen as a ‘ bad’ thing, a thing to avoid, a thing to hide from those around us. Modern day Failure – is what I like to call it, is being celebrated, is being acknowledged, spoken about, and most importantly learnt from. Some companies have even started ‘ Failure parties’ that celebrate the lessons learnt from failures along the way.

Even the very definition of failure is changing, as what may have been viewed as a failure in years gone by, is now seen as a valuable lesson learnt, or even better – used to fuel more research, more trial and error and eventually a greater outcome. 

Failure wrapped up in the positive, at the end of the day is still failure, and it can bring with it the emotions of disappointment, frustration, and even anger. Failure in its raw form, is still hard to swallow. What I love about Failure now is, that it is talked about, it is thought about it is dissected to a point where, greater understanding of the process behind the failure can occur.

I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways
that won’t work.

Thomas Edison

In team situations and family situations alike, we deal with failure in all of its glorious forms. As a leader it is critical to have empathy when failure is concerned. It may be us as leaders who have failed – we then to make sure we are humble about it. It may be our team our family, our loved ones who are dealing with a perceived failure. 

Recently my daughter struggled with two perceived failures in one week. She felt so disappointed. She was dreadfully critical of herself as she tried to unpack what happened and how she felt about it all. After listening to her talk as I drove her to her ballet lesson, I turned to her and said, ” Does this change who you are? Just because someone doesn’t think at this point you have what it takes – does that change who you are?” She looked out the window – silent. My heart sunk a little, as I hoped what I said, was received with love. She finally looked at me with a smile and said, “no”.  

Sometimes failure can blind us to the reality of who we are – we are not the failure itself. Our actions etc… may have contributed to a failure, but we ourselves are not the failure. 

When it comes to our family, when it comes to teams we lead – it is easy to take it on and feel like it is our fault. Take responsibility for your actions but do so with a positive mindset. One thing an amazing supervisor once taught me was, whenever we had a perceived failure, she would never finger point or blame. She was sit back in her chair, looking very relaxed – she would say ” What can we learn from this?” She never had preconceived ideas of what we could learn, but she encouraged everyone in the working group to reflect, and to learn for next time. That’s how I want my mindset to be. The first response to failure being “What can I learn from this?”

Of course, disappointment will still come, emotions will enter the mix, but if we choose to have a positive mindset and set our minds beyond the failure, we may just keep stepping in the right direction and face great achievements and discoveries.  

You always pass failure on the way to success.

Mickey Rooney
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 I am personally convinced that one person can be a change catalyst, a “transformer” in any situation, any organization. Such an individual is yeast that can leaven an entire loaf. It requires vision, initiative, patience, respect, persistence, courage, and faith to be a transforming leader.

 Stephen R. Covey