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Everything about being a leader is like being a parent. It is about committing to the well-being of those in our care and having a willingness to make sacrifices to see their interests advanced so that they may carry our banner long after we are gone.

Simon Sinek

What kind of legacy are you building for your family?

It often brings me great joy to hear how my kids behave when I’m not around. One day, when my son was about 11 years old, I was picking him up from a friend’s house. His friend’s dad pulled me aside with a sombre look on his face and asked, “How does he know to put his dirty dishes in the sink?”

For a split second, my mind raced. I was expecting a conversation about poor behaviour and was pleasantly surprised when it turned out to be quite the opposite.

My response, in hindsight, probably wasn’t all that helpful. I simply smiled and said, “We ask the kids every single night to do it.”

What I didn’t say was that we were also tired of asking every single night.

Like many parents, we’d wondered if the constant reminders were making any difference at all. Yet, when we weren’t there to prompt him, he remembered. He chose to do the right thing because it had quietly become part of who he was.

It’s a simple illustration of the legacy we are choosing to build.

Legacy is rarely created through grand gestures. More often, it is formed through ordinary moments repeated consistently over time. Every conversation, every boundary, every family meal, every reminder to be kind, honest, respectful, and responsible is laying another brick in the foundation of your children’s future.

The truth is, our children may not remember every instruction we gave them, but they will remember the culture we created. They will carry our values into classrooms, workplaces, friendships, marriages, and one day, perhaps into their own families.

So don’t grow weary in the repetition. The habits you’re reinforcing today are becoming the character your children will carry tomorrow. One day, someone else may quietly notice the fruit of your faithfulness, and you’ll realise that the small things were never small after all.