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Blue Print

in conversation with Ben & Christina

Who is in your family?

Benjamin (39), Christina (39), Zachary (6), Abigail (3)

Are you planners or do you go with the flow?
We are planners. Going with the flow is quite stressful for us.

What does your normal week look like?

Well before Covid-19 our normal week was very full. We both work every week day, Zach has school and Abby has day care. In addition we try to fit in extra curricular activities and Ben is at soccer training at least three nights a week.

Weekends are then full of grocery shopping, house chores,squeezing in some rest, birthday parties / socialising, church, getting ready for the week ahead and a soccer game for Ben that generally takes up a whole day.

You are now embarking on an exciting project outside of work, that takes up a lot of time, how do you make that work for yourselves and the whole family?

We are currently developing an app, which is exciting. I knew I couldn’t do it myself so I have employed the services of an app development company. Ben and I have worked through the specifications for the app after the kids have gone to bed. I am the one that has all the interaction with the software company and reads all the documentation. Then I sit down with Ben and explain it to him and get his input into the design and features. We also like to talk about it randomly while we are out and I will take notes on my phone. When we have a version to test I know Zach will be excited to participate in testing.We have made sure that this project doesn’t impact much on family life and as such we are taking it a bit slower and only doing it when we have time.

What advice would you give to a family working through the family blueprint, designing the family life you want?

Our family needs to do this too, so first step would be to recognise that you need to do this! We don’t have a blueprint written down but we do have agreement on some things that we adhere to and these have come about from good communication and purposeful planning. Things like taking regular holidays, living on a budget, keeping the kids active, involving our kids in Christian communities, ensuring our kids see us giving our time and resources to help those in need and to help the church. All these things take planning and sacrifice. Our lives are very busy so we have made some very conscious changes this year that is helping a lot:

  • We employ a cleaner to free up more time to spend with the family
  • We use a shared calendar on our phones to improve communication
  • We employ a gardener when needed
  • We have paid for a bus to take the kids to after school activities.
  • We incorporate swimming lessons into the after school care session, so we are making one less trip out.
  • We changed to a daycare centre closer to home, which also has extra curricular activities like swimming available.

These changes have all worked to improve the time we have together as a family and has saved us a lot of running around. Our budget hasn’t suffered either because it means I’m able to maintain my working hours.

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Leadership

Leadership trait: Adaptability

It is not balance you need but adaptability.    

Erwin Raphael McManus   

Ah that word ‘ change’. I feel like the entire world has had an abrupt lesson in adaptability – that no more needs to be said.  What I will say though is – our response to change – influences those around us . Our response to change also determines the outcome whether it is positive or not. It all comes down to choice – how do we choose to respond when we have the responsibility of influence. I can admit my adaptability and the capacity to deal with change, is a learnt skill.

I am awesome at routine and love to be organised and on top of things. Over time, I’ve learnt to be adaptable and deal with change in a positive manner, taking my team along with me for the adventure. I am also now able to walk my children through changes in life, ones we are in control of and ones we aren’t.

Change is the only constant in life. One’s ability to adapt to those changes will determine your success in life.

Benjamin Franklin

How do you approach change? Do you lead by example and make the most of it, not knowing how it will pan out?

Start to look at what you can control and what you can’t. How does that change your sphere of influence and impact your family? Although as challenging as this time of COVID – 19 has been, it has really made me aware of how my words and influence impact my family. I love it, that my eldest child is now telling me all the good things about spending more time as a family… rather than whinging that she can’t see her friends. Over time, even a matter of weeks, our influence in her life has worked for the better. Our youngest, however is still grappling with why I couldn’t use baby wipes to take the germs away from the playground…

Being adaptable, doesn’t only make life easier and rosier for us as adults and leaders, but makes for a smoother transition for the children in our lives. Their capacity to deal with change, enables them to navigate life in a far more positive way, than if they cant. Change is simply a given and they need to be able to adapt. At times we have had our plans changed at the last minutes by other family members and so on, it is interesting to gauge how our children react and how we can talk them through the process.

I will leave you with this last thought, I believe being adaptable makes you less selfish as you are thinking of others, thinking of the big picture and not just of yourself. Rather, seeing where you fit into the bigger picture along with everyone else…

Let us know your thoughts on that…

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Victory

#homesofvictory

Leadership is the capacity to translate vision into reality.

Warren Bennis

In our homes we are leaders whether we think we are or not. Our little ones who may not be so little any more, can’t help but see us as leaders.

What is it that you see in your future? What step, no matter how big or little can you take today to make it a reality?

May these words spark something inside of you today, that inspires you to take your dreams and vision for your family and make it a reality.